You are in the life you’re designing.
Embodiment does not wait for your design.
A system does what it is designed to do (Donella Meadows), and you are a system, one of attention over time.
Whatever ways you are, will necessarily make the way your attention moves, the opportunities that attention brings, the people you enrill, and the work and energy this will ultimately yield.
The stirring wheel to entire operation is you, and your embodied self (who you actually are).
A grounded practice that actively looks for value (notices what you notice) will always bring with it what you seek.
Complex systems (any system that involves people) are non-designable; instead, they consist of dynamics that build up to bigger shifts. The most obvious of these dynamics is your attention (/curiosity) to yourself.
If you look for interfaces to be curious about yourself, there are prompts for self-knowledge on creative-surplus.com